Navigating a Broken Court System – Episode 325 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Many parents feel like our Court system is broken. The system is definitely overloaded and is run by humans, so it doesn’t always get things right. In this episode, I’ll talk about the weaknesses in the system, why they exist, and how best to navigate them. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
Thanks, I’m dealing with my X who is an attorney and we have a custody schedule that requires us to communicate. Instead of communicating, he decided to let his girlfriend create a text thread that she required me to communicate through. She monitors it and often interferes with our conversations. Then she will act like she says it’s important for me to communicate this way, ‘For the sake of the children’. I do not like this and have pushed back. Recently they got into a fight and he drove our kids after drinking alcohol. The kids said he was swerving on the road and they were yelling at eachother. The Tuesday after that, (his afternoon with them) his girlfriend poured warm rotten milk into cups for our kids to drink. I am actually very concerned for our kids safety. The girlfriend has also left her sex toys and lube in our kids bedrooms. It bothers them. When I brought it up to them she texted back, “You don’t determine what happens in our home.” She accuses me of ‘Coaching the kids’ and says I make them frightened. But it’s after she has actually done something to make them cry. When I bring this to their father, she interferes through the thread and tells me to stop bothering and disrupting their loving home. I have to defend my kids I cannot sit by and allow this. How do I present this in court without sounding mad. Which I am very upset about it all. I gave them phones to call me if they need and the girlfriend took my son’s away, forced him to give up his password, then started going through all of our private conversations, took pictures of them too. She told them they are not allowed to tell me anything that goes in over there and there’s endless other things that have happened. She has him text me and threaten to call the police if I’m going to be a little bit late dropping them off for his visit, tells him not to pay child support and calls the kids, ‘OUR Children’.