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Retaliation in Child Custody Court – Episode 339 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When Narcissists win in Court, they often become emboldened and when they lose, they want a rematch. Often, that means retaliation against you that results in constant court hearings and chaos. Does the Court even care about retaliatory motives? Listen now […]

In Episode 338 “Were You the One Doing Everything?” we will discuss how I often hear clients say they “did everything” in their relationship. What you may not realize is that doing everything is a trauma response. People who “do everything” also frequently over-commit , struggle to delegate, mistrust others, are perfectionists, and are reluctant

What You Say V. How You Say It (In Court) – Episode 337 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Most people get very focused on the “what” part of the information they want the court to know. Much of my work as a coach is teaching people “how” to say the things they need to

Trauma Bond with a Narcissist – Episode 336 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Trauma bonds are created through a biochemical reaction in your body similar to addiction. So, it’s no wonder we have trouble breaking free, long after the relationship has ended. We often continue on the emotional rollercoaster that is a relationship with

5 Common Legal Traps with a Narcissist – Episode 335 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In this episode, I’ll discuss five of the most common traps we see narcissists use to try to gain the upper hand in Court. Understanding how the narcissists weaponize these traps and what steps you can take to prevent

Exposing the Narcissist’s Abuse – Episode 334 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Parents are often concerned about being able to expose narcissistic abuse from the other parent. In this episode, I’ll share tips to help you gather the information you need to help you expose the behaviors. I’ll also talk about how to present

Self Love is Key to Ending Toxic Relationships– Episode 333 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. The toxic patterns of a narcissist-codependent relationship don’t magically end just because the relationship ends, especially if we have to co-parent with the narcissist. The same unhealthy dynamics continue t until we do the internal work that is required

Presenting Your Child Custody Case – Episode 332 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Whether presenting your case to the court or another expert, one of the big mistakes people make is they talk about their case using words that are open to interpretation or by using feeling words such as angry, upset, etc. There

Coercive Control by Narcissists – Episode 331 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Coercive control is an act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim. Several states have recognized coercive control as a form of domestic violence. Narcissists